My SAHM gene is missing.. say it isn’t so!
For me being a SAHM isn’t about keeping up with all the household chores of a “MOM”. It isn’t about how messy or clean my house is or needs to be. I simply do not care what it “should” be like I only care what I choose to do with it.
I find staying home with my LO who has just turned one is a blessing. I have three older children that being homes helps with as well. However, it seems like there is a stereotype of how a SAHM should be or shouldn’t be. As my husband says, ” I do 100% financial, you are required to do 100% home and kids… UMMM.. NO! I will do no such thing.
I will do the dishes when I want to! Not all the time!
I will do laundry when I want to not when everyone else wants me to!
I will vacuum when I find the need to!
Oh I’m sorry you want your shirt sewn… I will do that when I feel like it not when it is demanded on me.
See I am not a person who takes orders. I am a SAHM who does what she wants when she wants, always making sure that everyone is taken care of but not on their demand on mine. SAHM are in a stereotype that we have to be superwoman. We are but all in our own ways.
I will not compare myself to others, just like I hope they don’t compare themselves to me.
My house is a mess, who cares. It is just how I do it. I choose to play with my daughter all day. Be lazy with her and well just not give a shit about anything. I look around and clean up everyday all day.. WHY? For what reason? It’s just messy again 5 min after I clean it so why clean all day long?
My kids have chores, do they care to do them unless told…? HELL NO!
My husband works all day and as I type this has been passed out on the couch for about an hour now. He doesn’t help with the kids or the house… Why doesn’t he have to? Oh ya, his GOD COMPLEX has the best of him. I am grateful for all he does but damn it I need a day off too! Or a shower with out asking are you almost done. Or if I go to the store I don’t want to be texted 20 min later to tell me to hurry up cause the baby won’t stop crying.
Bottom line is, SAHM are all different. We cook,we clean,we entertain we really do it all. I just choose to do it when I want.. (mind you I do stuff all day long) I don’t care if others don’t like my way of doing things!
I do get jealous sometimes of other SAHM who seem to have it all figured out when I am sitting over here like should I be doing that, like that… ECT!
Nope my SAHM Gene is just fine!